Psychologist and author Dr Elizabeth Celi says society is sweeping the growing issues of female aggression and domestic abuse under the carpet.
Dr Celi says that, while we often hear reports of male attacks on females, we don’t hear that:
79,500 men have experienced assault by a female perpetrator
77% of these assaults occurred in a home
26.7% of men have experienced assault from their current or previous female partner in the previous 12 months
(Source: Australian Bureau of Statistics, 2005, Personal Safety Survey)
“We neglect the fact that 27 percent of men experienced assault by their female partner in their home, and 45 percent of men experienced assault by a female friend or female family member*,” she says.
Men are harmed at the hands and mouths of women more than we talk about, and that is the subject of Dr Celi’s second book, “Breaking the Silence – A practical guide for male victims of domestic abuse”.
The book addresses questions such as: Where do men go to feel safe and get reprieve? Who helps their children out of the confusion and distress of watching mum, grandma, aunty or friend, mistreat their father?
An E-poll* of medical GPs regarding areas of men’s health asked:
Q: “Should more support be provided to men on the receiving end of domestic abuse/violence?"
– A: 74% said “Yes”, 22% said “Unsure” and 4% said “No”.
Q: Which (men’s) health issues should take priority in the allocation of community resources?
- A: 41% ranked domestic violence as the 3rd of 10 priorities.
Dr. Celi assisted with the launch and media for Australia’s first qualitative study on male victims of intimate partner abuse in 2010 (www.man.org.au): concerned family and friends and various service providers highlighted the barriers for male victims to disclosing what was happening to them -- including shame, fear of being disbelieved, and fear of gender bias.
Having just returned from presenting in the USA with researchers in this field, Dr. Celi has launched this practical guide for male victims to manage “her sugar coated viper tongue”, rebuild their lives and keep their children safe.
“Breaking the Silence – A practical guide for male victims of domestic abuse” is now in bookstores and available online (www.drceli.com.au).
For media enquiries, please contact Dr. Celi on 0413 338 237
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* Australian Bureau of Statistics, 2005, Personal Safety Survey.
** E-Poll Medical Forum, Male Medicos comment on Men’s Health (copy available on request)